Mental health is gaining more attention than ever before. Movies like Encanto are opening up discussions about family trauma to assist with individual healing. Those of us in our 20s and 30s have tools that our parents didn't have to overcome trauma. Many of us are now bringing those tools to the dinner table. For those who don't have tools but want to heal, they've begun the search.
Every single one of us has something within us that we can heal . . . and it usually starts in the subconscious.
What is your subconscious?
The exact definition is . . . "the part of the mind of which one is not fully aware but which influences one's actions and feelings." Basically, it's the part of your brain that is more in control of your day to life than you realize.
Author Jen Sincero (6 of Diamonds) talks about the subconscious in her self-help book You are a badass. She writes that your subconscious is formed in your childhood. Based on our surroundings and our cards, we create a system of beliefs that formed our subconscious. As adults, we can tap into our subconscious using tools such as mediation, yoga, hypnotherapy, and more.
The frontal lobe, which is the part of your brain that controls our conscious thought, isn't formed fully until adulthood. So from childhood to our late 20s, we are walking around with these "thoughts" that we used to create our own realities.
An example of a subconscious thought we could have formed in childhood is "If I don't get perfect grades, I'll be punished". That thought turns into the belief that "I need to be perfect to be accepted". As we get older we talk to friends and therapists to learn that perfection doesn't equal acceptance or vice versa.
So how do you release a belief that was formed so strongly in your brain?
How do I release the traumatic beliefs?
Step 1: Allow yourself to feel whatever organic emotion is connected to the belief and how it
manifested. You can be angry, sad, afraid, disgusted etc. about the situation that caused you to create this belief. That is fine! Feel that big feeling! Journal about it, talk about, cry about it; do whatever you have to do to be in the moment.
Step 2: Accept that you formed this belief and held on to it. The situations surrounding you in childhood contributed to the fact that you created this belief in your mind. No matter what, you created this belief. That doesn't make you bad, dumb, or anything negative. It makes you human.
Step 3: Forgive yourself for creating these false beliefs. As a human, you had a response to a
traumatic event. That's the whole story. The sooner you allow yourself grace and decide to forgive your younger self for creating these beliefs, the sooner you can lighten to load.
Step 4: You release the thought and move on. You make the decision that this belief is just that . . . a belief. It was a thought that you once turned into a fact. Now it's time to learn piano, enjoy your marriage, and get the job you've always wanted. You are allowed happiness so go and get it!
Now, all of this is easier said than done, however, no one in their right mind EVER SAID that healing was supposed to be easy. Healing is supposed to be ugly, honest, and uncomfortable but in the end, it's supposed to be freeing.
FREE YOURSELF from the false beliefs you created about yourself!
If you need help diagnosing which beliefs are causing dysfunction in your life, I suggest booking a Purpose Reading. During this reading, we talk through all of the cards that make up who you are. Using cardology we can learn what trauma needs to be healed in order for you to manifest the life you deserve.
It's time for you to walk in your purpose. Are you ready?
Talk soon,
Shelbie Moore (formally Mama Shelbie Ali)
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